1. He reached a hand under my skirt and played with my clit while everyone else on the train went about their business, oblivious to the tiny moans that slipped from my lips as I threw my head back in orgasm.
2. I could feel his cock pulsing between my lips as the sweet taste of semen dripped down my throat.
3. I dug my nails into his skin until I could smell the faint scent of blood mingling in the air with our carnal sweat.
4. He threw me up against the wall, mouth skating over my neck, teeth biting into my lip, and fingers sliding into my pussy.
5. He tore off his tie and used it as a blindfold, so I was unable to see his hands slip off my underwear or his tongue inch toward my clit.
6. He stuck an ice cube in his mouth, let it dissolve against his tongue, and then used that tongue to make intensely chilling circles around my clit.
7. He hugged me from behind, one hand reaching under my shirt to fondle my tits and the other hand reaching under my skirt to play with my pussy.
8. The handcuffs closed against my wrist as his mouth closed around my nipple
9. He fucked me up against the window, my ass pressed against the glass, and whispered about how he hoped the neighbors were watching every second of it.
10. I asked him how close he was to orgasming, but he was so entranced by my warm pussy and my bouncing tits that moaning was the only answer he could give me.
11. I straddled him as we kissed, and I could feel him getting harder through his jeans, wordlessly telling me I was hot as all hell.
12. He thrust into me as he rubbed the vibrator against my clit, intent on making me come before he had the chance to.
13. His thick hands massaged my back and his thin lips pressed against my neck, delivering a sweet sensation that not even an orgasm could match.
14. He led me into a bathroom stall, dropped to his knees, and stuck his head up my skirt to eat me out while people bustled all around us.
15. He had his head in between my legs, tongue running circles around my clit, and when I let out a long moan, I could feel him smile against my pussy.
16. As we spooned, I could feel his dick harden against my wiggling ass, and I knew it would only be a matter of time until we were both out of our clothes again.
17. He surprised me by showing up at my office, climbing beneath my desk, and making me come with his tongue before my boss had the chance to walk in and fire both of our asses.
18. He played with my hair as his dick slid back and forth against my clit, but as soon as he pushed it inside of me, he yanked my hair and took total control of me.
19. He bent me over the couch, my head against the cushions and my ass up in the air, so he could thrust into me and spank me at the same time.
20. His bright blue eyes flicked up to meet mine while his tongue ran up and down my clit, making sure I was enjoying the moment as much as he was.
21. He tied me to the bed, so I was unable to push his head away after he made me orgasm against his lips.
22. He picked me up at 2AM, drove me around town while blasting our favorite tunes, and then pulled over to fuck me on the hood of his car while staring up at the stars.
23. He whispered lines from his favorite poem against my hair as he fucked me against our bookshelf, filled with novels we’d read on rainy days.
24. He woke me up with oral beneath the sheets and a tray of breakfast on the nightstand.
25. His hands dug into my hips, leaving bruises shaped like fingerprints, but that was nothing compared to the marks he left on my heart.
26. While he slid his cock in and out of me, he moaned about how much he loved me, and once it was all over and our naked bodies were cuddling beneath the sheets, he whispered the words again.
It’s now evident that a substantial minority of women do ejaculate when they climax. This could be urine in some cases, but in other cases it seems that it isn’t.
Clearly, much more research needs to be done on the contentious subject of female ejaculation, and on the nature of the fluid.The 2014 French ultrasound studies of women climaxing need to be repeated, with a lot more females taking part.
Finally, women who experience ejaculation should realize that they needn’t feel ashamed of it, and that many partners have a pretty positive attitude towards it.
In other words, a lot of male (or indeed, female) partners actually like it. If a woman ejaculates, her partner may well regard it as a tribute to their virility and skill in bed.
Despite how sexual you may be as a woman, very likely have you never experienced the amazing experience of squirting.
In fact, only 21% of women have claimed to ever have squirted before.
And even less (5%) claim that they squirt with regularity.
It is like the Holy Grail for women to be able to say that they know how to squirt, and for men to say that they’ve been with a girl that can squirt.
What a lot of people wrongly assume, however, after years of never experiencing squirting, is that you (or your partner) are physically unable to squirt.
But that is a huge fallacy!
In reality, there are key tips and tricks that can women can use to learn how to squirt.
Or men can use to learn how to make a woman squirt.
Let’s discuss the amazing squirting orgasm and how you (or your partner) can achieve this rare feat!
What is squirting and why should I care?
Squirting orgasms are a variation of an orgasm which can best be described as when a girl literally shoots vaginal fluid from her vagina as she climaxes.
This liquid is clear and odorless – more or less comparable to water.
And if you or our woman has ever had a squirting orgasm, you will know that squirting orgasms are the best orgasms any girl could ever experience.
There is truly no comparison.
But squirting is not only so special because the orgasm itself is amazing, but because it is such a rarity and a mystery in and of itself.
How much fluid is produced?
We have heard claims that highly-sexed women can produce liters of fluid in a single orgasm. This seems very unlikely – after all, where could such an amount be stored in the female body?
More realistic is the estimate of Beverley Whipple, American sex guru and co-author of the original G-spot book. At a recent conference, she told me that in most cases, the amount of fluid secreted is usually around ‘half a coffee cupful’.
Where you stimulate matters!
Squirting is in fact quite difficult to achieve, especially for the first time.
And it is not always easy to do on a regular basis even after that.
But the pleasure rewards and prestige are so great that it is infinitely worth it to learn just how it can be done, and done consistently.
Keep in mind that these tips apply not just for how to make a girl squirt for the first time..
.. But also how to make a girl squirt easily and every time.
For the most part, there are two main points on the body that require attention and intense stimulation:
This is the most popular organ to stimulate, amongst both male and female organs, and for good reason.
It has the most nerve endings and so any stimulation feels amazing, and it is very sensitive to varying pressure points.
Want to learn more? Read up on our comprehensive clitoris guide.
Using your fingers is a great start.
And one that most women begin using once they realize the power of the clitoris.
But to get a real strong clitoral stimulation, we definitely recommend that you purchase one of our luxury vibrators.
Especially the vibrator wands, which are tailor made to stimulate your clitoris to the fullest!
From itty bitty vibrators no longer than a lipstick, to buzzing wands that feel truly magic, or stylish, ergonomically-designed massagers made to slip, slide and glide all over the body, spreading delectable sensations here, there, and everywhere…
There is a huge range of sex toys available these days, which is wonderful in terms of providing plenty of choice: you’re guaranteed to be able to find something that suits your tastes and your body, and there’s always something new and exciting to experiment with.
However, all these different options can also be a bit confusing. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when trying to find out what is the best vibrator to fit your needs. Our Beginners’ Guide will teach you the basics.
Sexual pleasure is something that we all love every now and then.
(Some of us are even obsessed with it if we’re being totally honest.)
And yes, more conventional means of sexual pleasure are admittedly good.
But they are not great.
The only way to ensure your sexual fulfillment is through the use of sex toys.
That is why you are here today.
And that is why we are here.
Here at Blissful Cherry, we pride ourselves not just on offering the highest-quality sex toys around, but also the guides necessary to take your sex lives to new heights!
This guide is our fundamental guide to take you into the world of sex toys.
Teaching you everything you need to know before you start trying them out for yourself!
Let’s get started.
(Feel free to use use open the Table of Contents below to skip ahead!)
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What are Sex Toys?
Before we go any further with this crash course, we first need to answer the fundamental question: What are sex toys?
In short, this is the definition:
Sex toys are objects specifically designed to enhance sexual pleasure.
In short, if the product is sexual in nature and meant to provide pleasure, it is a sex toy.
They are also known as adult sex toys, or simply adult toys.
Sex toys are meant to simulate (and in most cases enhance) sex and sexual pleasure.
As a result, a big draw with sex toys is their ability to help you achieve mind-blowing orgasms.
And not just achieve them, but to achieve them quickly and (relatively) easily.
In fact, for women in particular, sex toys are just about the only way to squirt.
Otherwise known as the ultimate female orgasm.
Yes, it’s possible to squirt during regular intercourse, but it is highly unlikely.
And impossible to replicate with any consistency.
Want to learn more about squirting and how to do it? Check out our guide on how to make a girl squirt.
Pleasure (and Pain)
Keep in mind though that while there may be a conventional definition of pleasure when it comes to sex and sex toys, what actually constitutes as pleasure totally depends on the person.
For this reason, many people around the world actual derive pleasure from what typically is defined as pain to most others.
And as a result, there is an entire line of sex toys that focus on achieving pleasure through pain.
Things like, but not limited to:
Whips and chains
Blindfolds and handcuffs
Now before you say anything: you very well may be into these sorts of sex toys if you give them a chance.
In which case, you’d be a real-life example of Anastasia Grey:
In either case, it is good to know that such sex toys exist.
If anything, just to put the world of sex toys in context.
Here at Blissful Cherry, because such sex toys are more of a minor subset of people, we focus on the more conventional sex toys.
Thoughts on the stigma of sex toys
Although sex toys are much more widely used and accepted in days past, some women may feel self-conscious about using such devices
The general stigma surrounding use of such sex toys is generally negative.
In particular, women are looked down upon for being so forthcoming about their sexuality and fulfilling their sexual needs.
However, that is just wrong!
Sex toys are nothing more than tools to enhance how good we feel when we are sexually stimulated.
It is a perfectly natural response to want to feel as good as we possibly can.
And sex toys help facilitate that goal.
With the world becoming less sexist in general, the fact that men have their own unique set of sex toys available for them means women have just as much right to fulfilling their sexual desires too.
All in all, if you hear someone disapprove of your interest in and/or use of sex toys, simply brush it off or take it in stride.
As long as you are happy with yourself and the way you can make yourself feel sexually, that’s all that matters.
When to use Sex Toys
In a general sense, sex toys can be used anywhere and anytime.
But in terms of applications of sex toys, there are two main instances of using them: To masturbate and to enhance sex.
Both are fairly similar, but do have some distinct differences that we will go over briefly.
Sex Toys For Masturbation
Part of the reason sex toys are desired by many women is because they create a sensation that can’t be replicated with just their fingers alone.
Although you can use your hands to masturbate, there is clearly something lacking.
Primarily the ability to penetrate vaginally with something thick and long.
In other words something that more closely simulates a real man’s penis!
In addition to the pure physical pleasure associated with having a large phallic object entering you, the psychological aspect of imagining it being a real penis only adds to the pleasure!
And outside of the phallic nature of a dildo or something similar, sex toys in general give women (and men) a chance to stimulate themselves in ways that their hands simply can’t replicate.
We’ve already touched upon phallic penetration, but things like vibrations, and even unique anal penetrations can only be accomplished through the use of sex toys.
So when you really want to go that extra mile, sex toys are the perfect option.
They will take your masturbation sessions to an entirely new level!
Sex Toys To Enhance Sex
Contrary to popular belief, sex toys aren’t just for alone time.
And while there is admittedly another person that will preoccupy your time, sex toys can coincide perfectly with you and your partner.
The reason sex toys can be worked into sex is due to the fact that there are so many combinations of givers and receivers, along with where to stimulate.
Sometimes the added sex toy will stimulate you while you are giving pleasure to your partner.
Or sometimes it will simply double down on the pleasure you are already receiving from your partner.
In any case, using sex toys during sex doesn’t just make it better, it makes it kinkier!
Be sure to check out our guide on unique ways to enhance sex using sex toys for more ideas on spicing up your late-night fun!
Characteristics of Sex Toys
Before we explain what explicit sex toys are out there, we’ll describe what sort of sex toys are out there.
This way you can see what appeals to you before putting any sort of label on what sex toy matches with you personally.
The main characteristic you look for when selecting a sex toy is the functionality.
Sex toys have all sorts of different functionalities, in order to best stimulate different parts of your body.
In general, there are only a few different types of functionality from which most sex toys are comprised of:
Penetration is probably the most obvious form of sexual arousal that you think of when you think of sex toys.
Which makes perfect sense, since penetration is a key aspect of real sex.
The key to penetration is the creation of friction between your own body and the sex toy itself.
And when done according to your liking, this friction creates an amazing pleasure sensation.
Note that the actual penetration effect that you create is based on a number of different factors.
Primarily the size of the sex toy penetrating you, as well as the lubrication of your own orifice.
So you can get all sorts of different effects, from recreating vaginal sex, to creating a kinkier pleasure sensation if you so choose.
The latter is typically associated with penetration in the anus rather than the vagina, along with using a (relatively speaking) thicker sex toy.
If penetration is the most obvious form of sex toy functionality, then vibrations are the most popular.
More so than any other type of sex toy, ones that vibrate are so unique and cannot be replicated by humans.
This is because vibrations are literally created through the use of small batteries and motors.
Tension and Pressure
While the concept of tension when it comes to sex toys inherently involves some penetration, when we talk about tension, we are really talking about a static state.
In other words, the sex toy will initially penetrate you, but rather than deriving pleasure through moving the toy in and out of your body, just the act of the part sitting inside you creates the pleasing sensation.
This is the driving principle behind anal stimulation.
And while the majority of tension-based sex toys are anal toys, vaginal toys can utilize this principle as well.
The great thing about tension-based sex toys is that once they are inside of your body, you (or your partner) can focus their energy pleasuring other parts of your body.
In this sense, toys that focus on tension are great complements to your “main” source of stimulation.
However, that doesn’t mean that these toys are less valuable than others.
To be rank, these tension-based sex toys are perfect tools to help put you over the edge and achieve orgasm.
Based on that alone, these toys are quite valuable!
Pressure-based sex toys are not too common, but prevalent enough to discuss in some detail.
Instead of most sex toys that to inside of your body, pressure-based sex toys are applied to the outside of your body in various capacities.
And while not all sex toys that are applied externally equate to pressure-based sex toys, more often than not that is the case.
Clamping, squeezing and even sucking are all subsets of pressure-based sex toys.
Sex Toy Materials
Once you know what kind of sex toy you want in terms of functionality, the next most important thing to consider is what the sex toy is made out of.
The sex toy material is not only important for your own comfort while using the toy, but also for considering the overall quality and durability of your product.
Plus it also dictates what kind of lube you can use with the toy, which is an entirely new discussion altogether.
In any case, there is quite a lot that goes into selecting your sex toy material.
But the most important thing when it comes to sex toy materials is to avoid sex toys that have phthalates in them.
Many low-quality sex toy suppliers use phthalates in their sex toys in order to create sex toys at a low cost.
However, this is a toxic material that you don’t want anywhere near your body.
If you want to learn more about phthalates and all of the various sex toy materials in general, our comprehensive guide on sex toy materials is the place to go.
Sex Toy Quality
After having just discussed sex toy materials briefly, now is a great time to discuss the general concept of quality when it comes to sex toys.
The fact of the matter is that there are thousands of sex toys out there.
And all of them can theoretically do the same job (more or less).
What really sets a sex toy apart though is its overall quality.
And quality includes the following (main) aspects:
Overall quality is important with every purchase you make.
And sex toys are no different.
Looking at the sex toy material itself is always a good indicator of quality.
But you can also get a good idea of quality based on the supplier and whether you trust them.
Or if you have prior experience buying from them.
Once you’ve gotten the first two factors out of the way, you should have a very good idea of what sex toy you want.
Having said that there, there are a few extra factors to look at, which may help pinpoint the perfect sex toy for you:
Exact shape and size
Battery or Rechargeable
These other factors are more geared towards performance and your overall preference when it comes to your sex toy selection.
But given that a good sex toy should in last many years, it makes sense to take these factors into account.
When talking about cost in particular, the one thing we always like to say is that you get what you pay for.
If you are truly on a budget, then perhaps you can risk purchasing a cheaper sex toy.
But it will almost certainly be of very low quality.
On the other hand, if you buy a more expensive sex toy, you can rest easy knowing that it is of a high quality.
With all other things being equal, paying more for your sex toy is always the recommended option.
Types of Sex Toys
If you’ve made it this far, then great job!
And even if you skipped down to this section, you know where it’s at 😊
Because here we actually list out the main types of sex toys that are available for women (and men) everywhere
This list covers just about every sex toy out there.
So once you read this, you’ll at least be aware of all the options available to you.
If you want to start off simple, buying a dildo is the way to go.
Nothing gets a woman going like seeing a man’s endowment.
The size. The shape. The texture.
All of it.
So dildos help to recreate that arousal level, especially when you are so desparately missing the real thing.
Most commonly recognized as the original sex toy, dildos are extremely intuitive to use.
The main focus with dildos is on penetration, inserting the dildo in and out in the same way that you would do with your fingers.
Albeit most dildos are much larger than your fingers, hence the need for this simplistic yet heavenly sex toy.
Getting penetration from something other than your own fingers is also a big reason why dildos are so great.
Rather than feeling like you are penetrating yourself, it will feel as if someone else is entering you!
The very emulation of sex itself!
Note that the dildo is most commonly associated with vaginal penetration, but depending on the exact size and shape of your dildo, you can just as easily use it for anal stimulation.
This is the heart of the sex toy world, as most women who have used sex toys before will attest to.
The biggest reason simply being that there are so many different types of vibrators.
Each with their own distinguishing features that makes them so unique to one another.
Your classic vibrator is a great start, with a straight streamlined shaft.
But there are more complex vibrators like the Rabbit Vibrator which stimulates your clitoris and your vagina at the same time.
Or the G-Spot vibrator that has a curved head to help hit that often hard-to-reach g-spot.
If you really want to get off anywhere, then the bullet vibrator is perfect for on-the-go use.
Which is also the case for the egg vibrator, which can even be used while in public, or as a couple’s toy.
And if you really love clitoral stimulation, the wand vibrator or the clitoral vibrator are perfect for you.
With so many different options to choose from, it’ll be hard to say that vibrators aren’t for you.
Take the time to learn and try all of them and you’ll find at least one vibrator that you can’t live without.
In fact, you’ll probably love all of them!
Perhaps even more popular than anal beads, butt plugs hit the same pleasure points as anal beads, but in a different way.
The muscles and nerves in your butt that result in pleasurable anal stimulation are constantly under tension due to the butt plug.
A great way that most women describe it, is that you feel “full” inside.
Not just your butt, but your entire body feels like it is full to the brim.
Very similar to the feeling when having genuine anal sex.
In fact, butt plugs are the perfect solution for simulating double penetration.
Or they can be used if your partner isn’t down to have anal sex with you for whatever reason.
They can even be inserted inside you all day for extended pleasure that won’t end until you finally get home.
Either way, butt plugs really amp up the pleasure for an oft-forgotten pleasure point.
These are so erotic just based on the way that they look.
And they actually take it one step further than butt plugs by adding in a penetrative element to their functionality, along with the tension-based element.
Anal beads are a connected set of beads that each creates long-lasting tension in the anal cavity.
And when strategically removed one-by-one, they create a mind-blowing penetrative pleasure.
Here’s why we just love anal beads in general:
A long length of beads that somehow manage to make its way into your butthole, one bead at a time?
That imagery is so hot just thinking about.
And it feels even better.
Especially when you pull them out one-by-one for brief moments of sexual release.
Each bead exiting your body stretches your behind and numbs your whole lower body for a few brief seconds.
Until the bead fully exits you.
And then the next one is soon to follow.
It’s the perfect way to enhance your orgasm.
There’s a reason we call anal beads the gateway to spine-chilling pleasure.
Male Sex Toys
To start off, keep in mind that most sex toys that women can use are also applicable to men as well.
Having said that, there are a few toys that are unique only to men.
The most common two are the cock ring, and the sex simulators (also known as the Fleshlight).
Both sex toys apply tension and pressure directly to the penis shaft to varying effects.
For the cock ring, squeezing the penis not only feels good, but can actually help men stay erect longer.
And for the sex simulators, they do exactly that: they simulate vaginal penetration.
Or for some men, they liken it to simulating a good old-fashioned blowjob.
Although for you ladies, you can learn how to give the perfect blowjoband keep him from turning to such sex toys in the first place.
(Just a tip!)
BDSM Sex Toys
And while they rely on a lot of different functionalities, the main one is pressure.
When you think of BDSM, most people instinctively think of whipping, spanking and even choking in some cases!
These are all forms of pressure to the body, which is exactly how many BDSM sex toys are utilized.
(Although not always!)
Another element of BDSM toys in general is the psychological aspect that comes with the sex toys.
This isn’t typically present in more common sex toys, but in this case is quite prevalent.
Getting into the mindset of being dominating or submissive to your partner is a huge turn on for some people.
And is just as much of the appeal as the how these sex toys are used on you physically!
Sex Toy Safety
Contrary to what you may have believed, sex toys can be dangerous from a health perspective, if not taken care of properly.
Part of this has to do with simply selecting a quality sex toy, but the other part is simply taking good care of your sex toys.
If you don’t, you may end up with infections or other minor health problems.
Given that context, sex toy safety should not be taken lightly.
To learn more, check out our comprehensive guide on sex toy safety.
It’ll tell you everything you need to know to ensure not only that you are safe while using your sex toys, but that the sex toys themselves will last a long time as well!
Although this guide touched on a number of different topics regarding sex toys in general, one thing is certain:
There is a vast world of sex toys that women can (and should) take advantage of!
No matter what your sexual preferences are, you can find something perfect for your own sexual needs.
With so many factors to consider, it can definitely seem overwhelming.
So for beginners to sex toys in general, the best thing to do is to take a best guess as to what type of sex toy would turn you on the most.
From there, just go out and buy that sex toy and see how it works for you and go from there.
Until you actually try a sex toy out for yourself, you’ll be left wondering what you are missing.
And trust me when I say that you are definitely missing a lot!
So take the plunge and watch your sexual pleasure rise to new heights!
In a world of high stress, to-do-lists, and constantly running out of time, tantra is the perfect antidote to the routine that develops in every romantic relationship.
This beautiful art of conscious, sacred sexuality has been practiced for thousands of years by Tantric couples in order to achieve authentic love, deep and passionate connection, and Spiritual enlightenment.
And absolutely anyone today can draw from the ancient reservoir of knowledge and wisdom of our ancient ancestors!
TIP 1: MAKE TIME FOR A WEEKLY SESSION
Commit to a weekly tantric session with your partner. Pick a day and time that works for both of you.
Set aside at least two hours to truly celebrate your relationship. Do not reschedule even if you’re feeling tired, as your tantric session will soon invigorate your body and leave you feeling new, stronger energy flowing through you!
Be sure to stick to your special date, only rescheduling if absolutely necessary. You’ll be amazed by the increased love, connection, and playfulness each session will bring both of you!
TIP 2: BE OPEN TO TRY SOMETHING NEW
Remember to have fun and don’t take yourself too seriously. Have an open mind and open heart, even if something seems silly to you at first.
Many people who are new to tantra have declared the eye-gazing exercise awkward and weird… until they tried it!
Don’t dismiss anything, just set some practices aside until you’re ready to experiment with them later on. And make sure to remain playful and curious – if a practice feels good to both of you, you’re on your way!
TIP 3: SET THE MOOD
Prepare for your lover by cleaning and adorning your bed with comfortable cushions and blankets. Create a feast for the senses with flowers, light incense sticks (or diffuse essential oils), plus a few fruits and drinks you both enjoy.
Light plenty of candles – their flickering and dim light will bring magic into the space. Put on a soft, relaxing music playlist (that will play for at least 2 hours). And make sure that the temperature is just right so that both of you are comfortable.
TIP 4: TAKE A CLEANSING & RELAXING BATH
Run a soothing bubble bath for your beloved. Light candles all over the bathroom, add soft music, spread rose petals on the floor, and pour a glass of their favorite wine.
Even better, you can join them in the bath tub!
TIP 5: SHAKE YOUR BODY ALIVE
Re-sensitize your body and to release any tension or blockages.
Stand facing each other with feet hip width apart and slightly bent knees. Take a moment to relax from head to toe and next start shaking your entire body for at least 5 minutes – shake your arms, hands, hips, head, shoulders, legs… You’ll just love the tingling and aliveness you’ll experience afterwards!
This practice helps your bodies experience pleasure in a much deeper, more intense way.
TIP 6: MEDITATE TOGETHER
Meditate together to clear your minds and connect to your hearts. Sit down cross legged facing each other and close your eyes.
Breathe deeply – simply be together in silence until all the worries of the day are gone. This will help you both become fully present and focused on each other.
You can also play a guided meditation, meditative music, or just sit in silence.
TIP 7: TELL YOUR BELOVED WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT THEM
Look them lovingly in the eye, and begin each sentence with ‘I really love…’.
To open your hearts even deeper and create more connection and intimacy, use the following phrases (and fill in the blanks):
‘”My heart truly desires… “, “It brings me a lot of pleasure when you… ”
Once you’ve finished, invite your beloved to do the same for you and thank them afterwards.
TIP 8: LOOK DEEPLY INTO EACH OTHERS EYES
Look into the eyes of your beloved: the gateway to the Soul, and ask them to do the same.
Try to eye-gaze between 5 and 15 minutes. It will feel like a long time at first until you connect on the Soul level, and this connection will feel wonderful and delicious.
To deepen the experience, synchronize your breaths so that you inhale and exhale at the same time.
TIP 9 SIT IN YAB-YUM POSE
This traditional tantric pose is a wonderful way to connect intimately with your beloved.
The male partner sits down cross legged, while the female sits down on top of his legs facing him (clothed or naked). Embrace each other and breathe fully together. Allow your bodies to tune in to each other; to merge together in this beautiful embrace.
Feel the love you both share, the appreciation for this special moment, and the joy of being able to celebrate your relationship!
TIP 10 ENGAGE IN A TANTRIC KISS
Still sitting in the yab yum position, breathe together and imagine that you’re sharing each other’s breath. Then join your lips in a soft, gentle kiss.
Allow your lips to melt together in a slow sensual kiss. Relax and savor the kiss as you caress your beloved’s lips with your own.
Stay completely present in the moment and immerse yourself in the sensations of closeness and intimacy.
TIP 11 GIVE OR RECEIVE A TANTRIC MASSAGE
Have him (or her) lay face down, as you awaken their body to various sensations.
Softly touch their skin with flowers, fabrics, feathers, ice, hot wax, fingertips. Begin with a gentle touch, then proceed to longer, fuller. Start at non-erogenous zones (back, neck, head, hands, legs, feet), then slowly excite their sexual energy, touching their bottom, inner thighs and genitals.
Have your lover turn over, and repeat on the front of their body – awakening their skin with soft touch, then massaging their non-erogenous zones first before proceeding to their chest, nipples, inner thighs and genitals.
Keep asking for feedback and remind your beloved to relax, breathe fully, and stay present.
HOW TO END YOUR SESSION
At this point, you both may decide to make love – or not. If not, simply lay in each other’s embrace, and share your feelings in a soft, loving conversation.
If you do decide to make love, do not rush it. Allow the penetration to happen naturally, without any effort.
Start with slow, shallow thrusts, and remain completely aware of your bodies, your energies and particularly your genital area. Guide your consciousness to travel up and down your spine – between your heart and your genitals, and notice all the sensations in your body.
And as you start to move again, allow your genitals to connect lovingly, and melt together in a sensual, ecstatic dance.
Take your time! Tantra is not a chase to an orgasm – it’s a feast of pleasure, and as long as you’re both experiencing plenty of it, you’re on the right track!