Now that everything’s cool, it’s time to heat things up.
After you’ve talked out your problems and both feel genuinely heard by the other person, you might feel an immediate need to hug each other, or some surprising sexual tension. Make-up sex can be wild, intense, or super tender. But whatever ends up going down, you’ll definitely remember it.
Lie on your sides and face each other with your leg over your partner’s hips. Hold them tight and slowly move against each other–rocking back and forth will help y’all self-soothe. Between kisses, whisper what you love and missed about each other. It can be earnest and sweet or full-on dirty talk–whatever brings you closer!
2The Oral Apology
If your partner still feels a little bad, even though you’re 100 percent over it by now, you may as well take them up on their offer to make it up to you. Lie back and let them kiss, stroke and lick you until they’re back in your good graces. You can boss them around and tell them exactly where they need to go, or make them figure it out on their own.
3Up Against the Wall
If you still have some residual annoyance after resolving the problem, match it with urgent, must-have-you-now make-up sex. Stand, pressing your back against a door jamb, with a foot pushed against the other side of the door frame for balance and any needed height adjustments. For bonus sexiness, your partner can lift you by the ass, and the jamb makes for easier hoisting.
After a period of conflict, you might feel long overdue for a passionate sex session. Thrash and roll around, growl, pin each other down. If you’re both into it, say mean-ish things to each other (with set verbal boundaries, obviously). It will lead to exactly the kind of release you need.
Reconnect at the most primal level with the classic Tantric pose, Yab Yum. Your partner sits cross-legged while you’re on their lap with your legs wrapped around their butt. Gaze into each others’ eyes and sync your breathing. You can throw in toys too, like a double-headed vibrator for a mutual masturbation sess. The intense eye contact can make you feel soulfully attached to each other again.